When I was seven years old my father told me that I could never really love anyone else until I truly loved myself. And since I was a very curious kid with a zest for insight I responded by asking him how could I do that. Teach me? It turns out, even though he knew the concept, he couldn’t explain how to get beyond the should part.
I think that’s also where the conversation around self-love starts and ends today for many of us as adults.